I was watching this like crazy last week! I think it's because I don't want to study and this makes me feel a bit better about it because it's at least a bit related to psychology...
So anyways, they hire actors to do something that goes against our ethics & then they record peoples reactions..
They do this with all sorts of stuff...
unwanted flirtation
a waitress hitting on your boyfriend/girlfriend right in front of you
a dad rejecting her daughters boyfriend because he's black
bum bashing (the intro into that one seriously made me cry)
We all think we'd be the ones doing something & standing up but actually when all comes to all nobody does anything... We all look around pretending everything is alright to see if anyone else is reacting. & since everyone else is doing the exact same thing all you'll find is others being calm, when in fact they're doing the same as you thinking "wait, should i do something??" So basically at the end we are tricking ourselves into thinking everything is ok.... does that make any sense??
Here's one episode.. people actually walk past a kid that's lost. You'd like to think that if your kid would get lost someone would stop on the street and see if it's alright... buuut as it turns out almost nobody does.
I just went from one video to the next from the suggestions at the end of each video..
Someone like him would come up to me going "Hi there, my name's Ted. Nice to meet ya"... well let's just say I wouldn't start kicking, screaming and running for my life. He's not my dream type in any way, don't get me wrong. But a serial killer? No way. Which makes it all so scary.
You learn to avoid people likely to harm you, but then the people most likely to do so are the ones that are the closest to you. Or, like in Bundy's victims cases, a handsome young guy that asks you for help since he broke his arm and it is now in a (fake) cast. (One of his tricks to lure girls into walking off with him to deserted places)
This looks like a fun guy, on the left he looks more like a jim carrey kinda guy rather than the "I'm going to kill you" kinda guy.
All except the first picture was taken after he was arrested so obviously that will make a guy look a bit washed up but there's no denying you can see the charm he has, in the smile and all... I can understand how he could trick so many girls into thinking he's all innocent.
Now why all these thoughts about some Ted Bundy guy??
Today I've felt like a complete social retard. I have spent over 6 hours learning about psychopaths and watching the movie, documentary, biography, interview and more about Ted Bundy. I don't really know if I'm being arrogant assuming everyone knows who he is since I probably read all about him in psychology books, buuut
For those of you who don't know Ted Bundy.
He was a teen when he found out that his sister was actually his mother, I mean, that alone is enough to mess seriously with someones head.
He raped & killed over 30 young women (that he has confessed to)
He had necrophilia, which means that he fantasied about having sex with corpses. Which he did, after killing the girls he'd have sex with them again.
The word "Serial Killer" was invented in order to describe Ted, before him the word didn't even exist.
He knocked his girlfriend up while on the death row, his daughter is now 25 years old but her mom changed her name in order to protect her... wonder if she even knows she's the daughter of Ted Bundy?
For a long time before he was killed he got over 200 love letters a day from random girls claiming they were in love with him. Hybristophilia is actually a known paraphilia where people are sexually aroused or even fall in love with someone known to have committed a serious crime. Even Josef Fritzl received a lot of these letters after being charged.
I honestly don't even know what I think of the guy anymore. First I wanted to kill him myself but at the end of all the digging I felt bad for him and not sure if he can be held accountable for his actions. He couldn't feel sympathy for anyone, so he doesn't feel bad when he's taking an innocent life. He only regretted doing things because "society had taught him to feel bad for this and that" not because he actually felt bad. We go all crazy thinking "of course it's wrong, how can someone not see that?!" but imagine if you lack the ability to feel anything for another human being, then it's not so black and white anymore.
The movie "Ted Bundy" was the one I watched. It was good but made me never want to trust anyone else ever again.
Here's the interview with him the day before he got electrocuted where he truthfully answers what made him the way he was. He brought a lot of insight to psychology into a psychopaths mind, maybe he shouldn't have been killed just for the sake of science.?? hmmm, maybe using him as a lab rat for a couple of years to maybe find a way to stop serial killers sooner would have been a way to use his existing to at least some good.
My favorite quotes by Ted Bundy (the real Ted Bundy, not the character in the movie)
1. "We serial killers are your sons, we are your husbands, we are everywhere. And there will be more of your children dead tomorrow"
Ok, ouch. But true, as soon as someone does something so horrible we don't look at them as humans anymore because we don't like to think that someone human could do such a thing... but just taking into consideration that they're actually born in the environment around us and could be anyone is scary.
2. "Well-meaning, decent people will condemn the behavior of a Ted Bundy, while they're walking past a magazine rack full of the very kinds of things that send young kids down the road to become Ted Bundy's" & "I've met a lot of men who were motivated to commit violence just like me. And without exception, without question, everyone of them was deeply involved in pornography."
First of all, I think it's funny how he uses his name as a verb. As if Ted bundy isn't his name anymore but the adjective to describe someone like him. He believed that with all the fucked up environment we are exposing to our kids we don't realize that although it doesn't affect the majority of the people it is pushing the minority over the edge to act upon their fantasies. Sure YOU don't start killing people because of porn, but what the society is making "normal" through porn is what makes these guys tick.
3. "I don't feel guilty for anything. I feel sorry for people who feel guilt."
Ok, no wait, what? that's such a paradox. haha ironic saying that you don't feel anything for other people, but as your explaining yourself even further you say "I feel sorry for people who..."
4. "What's one less person on the face of the earth, anyway?"
So today's the first university exam! I was all "yay, how exciting" until I really started studying for it, then it turned into kind of a "kill me before I kill myself" type of thing
3 hours to go...
Am I hungry? of course I am, I'll go make an omelette..... Great now I have eaten, but I start thinking, what did I eat, I mean I know it was an egg... but what is egg, really? What do I really know about eggs? not so much... so I decide to google it. After 15 minutes of teaching myself everything there is to know about eggs there is nothing more to know and I start watching this!
2 hours to go...
I haven't gone running in a while have I? No it's actually been a while, way to long.. I'll go running! I run until I'm about to faint and feel like I need to throw up because I know that as soon as I get back home I'll have to get back to studying.
1 hour to go...
I call mom and ask her where she is... she's at a sale. what? there is a sale? off shoes? where? can I come? Of course I can, I can do whatever I want. So I go to the store with the sale and buy shorts, everyone knows it's good luck to have new shorts on when going to an exam... how else are you going to pass??
Now I'm late so I run off to the exam, I come running into the classroom, sit down and realize I had no pen or id with me... they had been talking so much about having NOTHING with you during the exam that I left EVERYTHING in the car... including the only 2 things I needed with me... great job! hahaha
Regardless, the exam went well, way better than I expected it to & even if it didn't Only 2 out of 3 count so I can go happy to work.. yaaay
Happy weekend, I hear people get happy when the weekends come, I wouldn't know... weekends are just like any other day, if anything busier!
I just want to say sorry in advance for all the psychological stuff I'll be posting, but some of it I find so fascinating you have no say in the matter! hahahah!
I love getting deep into how people work, why they do what they do and so on. I can spend hours googl'ing some theory or experiment made, watch it on youtube, which then leads me to other videos and so on. I've spent so much time doing it and much of it is actually paying off now that the teachers are talking about this and that experiment and I have already read and watched everything there is to find on google.
see, wasting time on the internet does pay off!
Ok so this first thing is called Change blindness and is about the fact that people fail to notice even large-scale changes to their environment simply because they have their focus on something and everything else just gets blocked out.
This second one is the same but with different people conducting the experiment...
and the final one, a bit different
I think everyone would fail to realize the men had changed, except the women that were ovulating and looking for a mate. They just thought one of them was cute and therefore noticed when someone less cute came haha :D
The next thing is called inattention blindness
hahaha first time I saw this I really fell for it, that was years ago though when I had been google-teaching myself. Still really fun to see the other 300 students in class today failing to notice it.
This is the same thing, but I was a bit afraid the bear was more obvious in this one, might just be me noticing it more because I've seen it so many times.
Oh, I love psychology. Now, back to reading & finding more fun stuff to share with you!
Thursday, September 13
Dear handsome men. could you please just skip becoming a teacher. leave that up to the old bold men. Nobody's focusing on what your saying when you look like ezra fitz. youre not doing anyone a favour
In highschool I took many psychlogy classes, general, child, criminal, happiness, biological and more... Each class that I took was one semester, 18 weeks, taught 4 hours a week.
Now? I got one HUGE ass book devided into 18 chapters. One chapter is general, One criminal, one biological... You see where Im going. Each chapter is taught 1 hour. So basically what Im now learning in one hour (have 3-4 days to finish it on my own)is equaly much as I did in 72 before!! And Im telling you its not any shorter or easier, on the contrary, its not even in icelandic!
You miss one class and shooo everyone is 100 pages ahead of you which means you then have 4 days to finish 200 pages... Throw in 2 jobs and any social life and boom you have the perfect recipe for depression. But hey at least the end Ill have the ability to fix depression hahaha
Ive been in the reading room now for 8 hours and off to my second job :( I better have a kick ass nice vacation in 12 weeks in a warm cozy and exciting place
For those of you that know me know that I am the most irresponsible person ever and have in most cases no clue what I'm doing in life besides just what I want when I want to. Things always find a way to work out just fine.
I am starting school in 2 weeks and still have no clue where I'm going to live thank you very much.
I have 3 possibilities.
First. Driving front and back. Which is hard since I don't have a car and would have to borrow my moms car along with taking the bus. That's going to cost me the same as renting an apartment in central Reykjavík. Buying my own car is too much responsibility. I don't like to be tied down.
Second. Renting an apartment in Reykjavík. On campus you can rent cheap apartments but since I don't like to plan ahead I didn't even apply, so much for that. I found a great apartment, good location and really nice, but no shower or bath. what?! I took a shower by heating water and pouring it over myself in Finland last summer. I'm not doing that every day!
I found another where I'm only renting a room but shearing the rest of the house with four 25 year old guys. I got enough of being a maid this summer, not going back to that with four loud guys 24/7! Also renting an apartment involves a lease that ties me too much down.
Third (and my personal favorite). I'll use ja.is (site where you find peoples info) I'll go on that, find all guys living in 101 under 30 then cross reference them with the ones that I find are good looking and single on facebook and conveniently find myself the ideal boyfriend. This way I don't have to think about how to get front and back for the rest of the semester. I'm smart like this sometimes.
(I'm of course joking, for god's sake don't take me seriously!)
I guess I'll end up just living out of my purse. Having my stuff here and there and just planing one night ahead where to sleep. That will work out just fine. Unless someone that lives in Reykjavik wants to adopt me... anyone?
Ok, this can't be considered normal. I called the school to make sure they weren't forgetting like half my schedule. No no, this is it.
Timetable from heaven! besides the fact that I have to drive to school two days only to be there for one hour and twenty minutes it's still great! :)
The semester is also only 12 weeks + exams. Is this a joke? Why doesn't everyone just go to university just for the sake of it haha..
Okei I actually don't doubt that it's going to be hard, hardER if anything since I still have to finish reading the same amount of pages as if I was in school for 5 hours a day for 20 weeks. But I really prefer doing it on my own terms so it's all good :D
now only one more week until the school starts, also one week until I go abroad.
The University of Iceland has just accepted you application.
I was SO extremely happy, until I read past the first line and realized I also have to pay, then I went online to check on my subjects and saw how much my books cost. I managed to go from excited to nervous in under 5 minutes. One book costs as much as a one way ticket to Copenhagen does... how am I ever going to finish the whole 5 years when I keep comparing all prices with flight tickets. I could be going circles around the world...
Of course then I had to realize that I also have no car to get to the university if I'll be living far away and no apartment to live in close to it. It has to be some kind of a record how fast I managed to go from happy to nervous!
After some hours of talking to mom & dad and whining about how I have no clue what I'm going to do with myself they helped me reach the conclusion that it will all work out eventually. Maybe a good idea for me to start studying psychology. I'll then maybe manage to psychoanalyze myself and maybe, just MAYBE I'll manage to stop stressing so much and get rid of an ulcer, or two... or maybe just all four of them.
Now that I've taken my stress out I'm excited to start going to school again. I haven't been to a classroom in ages and the other day when I was reading my graduation papers I found out I had finished 90 credits out of 140 online. Insane! but what was even worse was when Gulli started calculating how much I'd paid for all those online classes. I could have taken a whole self-finding-what-not journey around the world like in that eat, pray, love movie with all that money. Of course the reason why I took it online in the first place was because I was travelling, so not like I can afford complaining.
I'm also going to enjoy reading about other peoples problems, realizing how many psychopaths are out there. When ever my ex will now tell me that I'm crazy I can know for sure it could be worse and that my problems aren't even close to being worth discussing with all the craziness going on in the world...
p.s. I found out that I've actually over come my fear of spiders. I have Australia to thank for that, and maybe a bit Adams house that had been over taken by spiders while we were away. For the first time tonight I saw a spider coming from underneath my bed and didn't freak out, I simply gave it a little "ohhh" and then squished it with the sunscreen Sunna forgot at my house. Then I of course left it there as a reminder to not step there since I'm in no mood to pick up a body right now...
